Seek Failure & Search For Rejection

What the hell is this post about?  It’s time to rewire your thinking and do the exact opposite of what you’ve been doing. I continue to challenge myself as well.

It’s normal to feel fear (hesitation, doubt, uncertain) and pull back from a situation, or avoid it all together.

It’s normal to not go after something because you assume that the answer will be no, or that it won’t work out.

Guess what? The people in this world who flat-out disregard the norm are the people who you see soaring in training and life.

  • Try to fail, as much as you can. Do something today until you’re unsuccessful, it doesn’t work out, or you come up against a roadblock. Again, this isn’t failure, this is a stepping stone towards you gaining more experience, clarity and motivation. You’ll begin to feel more comfortable going for it, and you’ll actually ACHIEVE it more often, and quicker by practicing this. You’re choosing to fail, which is much different than feeling like you “have” to do something because someone is making you. Choose to seek failure.
  • Try to get rejected as much as you can. Today, try to get a “no” from someone. Ask for something that you want, or that you think is a little ridiculous, and see what happens. Go after it, remember…your goal isn’t to get a “yes,” which takes all of the pressure off. Your goal is to actually get turned away or rejected. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s a practice of going after what you want and what may help you. The more you do this, the more comfortable you will be with going for it, asking for it, and GETTING IT.  Choose to seek rejection.

Bottom Line: Failure and rejection only have as much weight as you give them. You can perceive them as negative and therefore give them a stronger hold on you. Or, you can see them as positive, as effort, and you can actually be excited about them. You won’t know unless you try. Throw some enthusiasm in there and you’ll see doors fly open and a crazy amount of success will start flowing your way.

If you’re a CrossFit athlete and you’re read to improve your mental strength, this is for you – “Build Mental Strength: Learn How To Overcome Anything” 

7 Comments on “Seek Failure & Search For Rejection

October 8, 2015 at 1:26 AM

I love this post, and extremely timely for me today too! I have always followed the philosophy that falling down is normal, always get back up, push harder, push through, never let anything stop you and you cannot fail to achieve in the end. I also completely agree with the concept that failure and rejection are an intrinsic part of success, but had never actually made it part of my plan to go out and actually seek it and search for it…. and yet now you’ve laid it out in front of me, it seems so obvious! Brilliant & Perfect. Thank You

Mentality WOD
October 8, 2015 at 6:42 AM

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. It’s a much different mindset to “seek” failure and rejection vs accepting it as necessary. I think it’s pretty cool and powerful! You’re welcome

Brian Jordan
October 25, 2015 at 1:29 PM

Dawn, I think you just outdid yourself. Great post! This is just what I needed. I have been working on seeing rejection as a positive thing by learning from it but this just takes that concept light years ahead. Looking forward to implementing this. This is a great tool to add in the toolbox.

October 25, 2015 at 4:46 PM

Brian! Thank you for your comment – Let me know how it turns out! It’s definitely a more positive, forward-thinking perspective that I think is helpful for all of us to remember!!! Get after it!

Adele Bonnie
January 5, 2016 at 7:59 AM

I completely love this post. I hear a lot “don’t be afraid to fail” but actively SEEKING failure and rejection is a new idea for me. I’m very afraid of both but at least willing to feel afraid and do it anyway!

Mentality WOD
January 5, 2016 at 9:31 AM

So glad you commented Adele 🙂 Thank you and keep seeking!!!

February 15, 2016 at 9:49 AM

Many, many years ago, a young religious man put it this way: “Unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit”.


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