One of The Best Body Language Tricks I’ve Ever Learned

Okay, so it’s really not a “trick”, but I’m so thankful that I learned to do this and it’s a go-to strategy for me.

I learned this one from Bob Goff, the author of the book “Love Does” that I read a couple of years ago. Bob worked as a lawyer and in one of his chapters he references that he had all of his clients sit in court with their hands on their legs and their palms up. He found this helped people keep their guard down, and remain calm and honest.


So, there are two situations when I regularly use palms up, and it helps me tremendously.

1. When I want to be very receptive to listening, learning and growing. I use palms up in conferences, church, conversations, seminars, prayer/meditation and even when I’m just hearing music.

2. When I want to be very calm or patient. I put palms up when I feel myself becoming agitated or when the situation is getting intense around me. *this works great when you’re having an intense or heavy conversation

Try it out for yourself, and watch the magic occur. Maybe it will stick with you, maybe not, but I believe that it’s far more helpful than having clenched fists or crossed arms (which I try to stay away from). Try going palms up this week and let me know how it goes.

There are all sorts of strategies that you can try to improve your mindset. The key is doing what works for you and what helps you be a better person. I love this stuff, so I’m constantly looking for ways to help myself and you.

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4 Comments on “One of The Best Body Language Tricks I’ve Ever Learned

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Alison Bowling
January 10, 2015 at 8:50 PM

This is crazy stuff, I never even realized the impact this would have on me. I am ever the doubter, and jaded to my core, so I wasn’t sure going into this that doing something so simple would end up working so well. I have retained so much more of what I’ve been told, and been more receptive to people around me in general by simply putting my palms upward. I even tried it with my favorite music, and I swear I gleaned more meaning out of songs I must have heard more than a hundred times already. I’ve been telling everyone I know about this, I can’t believe this worked.

Alison Phillips
January 10, 2015 at 9:59 PM

I’m with the other Allison here. I doubted this one seriously. I gave it a try when my inner skeptic was at her worst, I have a boss at work who is convinced I never listen during meetings, and maybe it’s because I disagree with her way of thinking but in any case, I tried this and I think there’s something to it. I absorbed what she said and retained it, and it has helped me to be an active listener too. Who knew something this easy would have such a big impact?

January 11, 2015 at 3:31 PM

I’m so glad to hear your responses. Thank you for the feedback and for giving it a try, even as a skeptic and I also am so dumfounded by how well it works for me. Keep on doin it guys!


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