Okay, so it’s really not a “trick”, but I’m so thankful that I learned to do this and it’s a go-to strategy for me.
I learned this one from Bob Goff, the author of the book “Love Does” that I read a couple of years ago. Bob worked as a lawyer and in one of his chapters he references that he had all of his clients sit in court with their hands on their legs and their palms up. He found this helped people keep their guard down, and remain calm and honest.
So, there are two situations when I regularly use palms up, and it helps me tremendously.
1. When I want to be very receptive to listening, learning and growing. I use palms up in conferences, church, conversations, seminars, prayer/meditation and even when I’m just hearing music.
2. When I want to be very calm or patient. I put palms up when I feel myself becoming agitated or when the situation is getting intense around me. *this works great when you’re having an intense or heavy conversation
Try it out for yourself, and watch the magic occur. Maybe it will stick with you, maybe not, but I believe that it’s far more helpful than having clenched fists or crossed arms (which I try to stay away from). Try going palms up this week and let me know how it goes.
There are all sorts of strategies that you can try to improve your mindset. The key is doing what works for you and what helps you be a better person. I love this stuff, so I’m constantly looking for ways to help myself and you.