Love Your Fears, Anxieties & Frustrations

Fear, anxiety, doubt, frustration, nervousness, and uneasiness. Not typically such fun feelings are they? But, there is one ultimate strategy that will help those feelings reduce in strength almost immediately.


Instead of trying to “NOT” feel them…you can accept that you are feeling them.

Instead of trying to wish them away, you can embrace that they are part of this thing called life.

Instead of being angry that you’re experiencing them, you can actually learn to love these feelings.

  1. Write down all of the feelings that you “hate” or really dislike feeling
  2. Each time you notice one of those feelings arise, begin to soften your response to it

When you begin to feel something you notice you’re uncomfortable, the next step is to immediately tell yourself that it’s “okay” to be feeling that way. That it’s temporary and that you accept what’s going on right now inside of you.

As you begin to accept those feelings, you’ll notice they start to lessen. You can eventually even move towards loving ALL of your feelings, and embracing all parts of the human experience, and you’ll feel less controlled by anxiety and fear.

I struggled with panic attacks for years and my anxiety used to get the best of me. I used to try with all of my might to push it away, and I would get so mad that I had it. Now, I take an entirely different stance towards emotions like fear, doubt and anxiety. Sure, I still feel anxious at times, but when I started to accept it and learned to love that it’s part of who I am, it’s part of a meaningful life… that’s when it stopped controlling me. It’s still uncomfortable, and I still continue to practice this strategy all of the time, but it’s the best way that I’ve ever found to reduce the discomfort.

Passion often comes with fear.

Desire often comes with frustration and nerves.

Big, important events, pursuits and projects that you care about often lead to some stress and doubt.

Working on fulfilling relationships and chasing personal goals both come with a bit of anxiety about the unknown.

See how this works? The best things in life, can often be paired with some uncomfortable feelings.

Bottom Line: Lean into your feelings, be kind to them. Embrace that they are there, but that they don’t need to RULE your actions and thoughts. Fear and anxiety can be present, you can be okay with them and you can do amazing things WHILE feeling them. They don’t need to be gone in order to go forward. Before you know it, you may even be able to understand them and love them.

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6 Comments on “Love Your Fears, Anxieties & Frustrations

March 6, 2016 at 12:06 PM

Makes sense. Sometimes it helps me when others validate those feelings, but I do need to do a better job of owning my negative feelings. And allowing myself to accept them as real.

Mentality WOD
March 6, 2016 at 12:15 PM

It’s often helpful when others validate them, and sometimes easier to help others through them – but accepting them for ourselves is key!

May 6, 2016 at 3:18 AM

I love this article! So much focus is now on ‘thinking positive’ which makes you feel quilty sometimes if you don’t feel so positive, inspired or ‘passionate’. Sometimes you feel down, anxious or stressed and that’s part of life. We should all embrace our ‘uncomfortable’ feelings as well, as you put it. That in itself should relieve a lot of stress!

Mentality WOD
May 6, 2016 at 8:29 AM

Thank you for the comment – I agree that we can’t just force and preach “positive thinking” that we can really learn about our anxieties and fears and go forward WITH them!

Paul Vandyken
July 28, 2016 at 7:21 PM

By reading this article, I changed my mind, the mindset about fears, anxieties. It’s really hard at the beginning. But hope that by changing the point of view, I will be able to overcome difficulties in my life.
Thank you for sharing this helpful post.

Kristen Chaddah
January 17, 2017 at 6:53 AM

Thank you. This is very helpful. I have just listed ten feelings I hate to feel. To feel defeated, to feel flat, to feel stupid, to feel humiliated, to feel dismissed, to feel judged, to feel sad, to feel overwhelmed, to feel under attack, to feel devalued. And the answer to all of these uncomfortable feelings? Hang in there, and love myself, no matter what others may say or do. This is the ultimate challenge, to believe in ourselves and to be brave.


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