How To Move On When You Mess Up


Do you beat yourself up when you don’t get it right the first time? Do you talk down to yourself or become incredibly upset when you don’t feel good at something right away?

We all prefer to feel competent. If we could choose, we probably would want to omit the learning curve altogether and instantly be a master at everything we try. Right?

The next time you try something new or are working on a project or skill that’s a little challenging, listen to your self-talk, become aware of your facial expressions and check out your body language. How do you respond when you don’t get it right the first time?

You don’t have to get pissed off at yourself. You don’t have to bitch about the time and energy that you “wasted” because it didn’t go perfectly. You don’t have to be bitter and frustrated because you didn’t perform like you wanted to right away.

Instead, you can create a fresh, more positive perspective after something doesn’t go exactly right the first time.

You can consider it 1 of these 4 things:

  1. A Necessary Learning Lesson – Maybe you can recognize that you needed that experience to grow, to get better and to improve your approach for next time.
  2. An Adventure – Maybe you can realize that you enjoyed yourself and it was a fun process that you’re glad you tried.
  3. A Reminder – Maybe you can use it as a reminder of what “not to do,” or a reminder of what you really want to focus on that’s even more important. Maybe it provided you with a reminder that it’s better when you slow down or to simplify the steps.
  4. A Motivator – Maybe you can use that experience as motivation. You can use it to help you become even more fired up to work harder soyou can master whatever it is.

Sure, there are going to be times when you knock it out of the park right away. There will be times when you prepare and execute exactly like you wanted to. Those moments are incredible and it’s a bit more natural to feel satisfied when we get things right the first time.

But, if you continue to push your boundaries, learn new skills and put yourself out there…you’ll want to keep learning how to keep a helpful perspective when you don’t get it right the first time. That way, you keep trying, growing, improving and enjoying the journey.

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4 Comments on “How To Move On When You Mess Up

April 11, 2016 at 11:28 PM

Love this! Sometimes “learning opportunities” hurt our feelings, but reality hurts as well.. We can’t live in denial… suck it up and keep moving forward is the hardest steps sometimes…

Mentality WOD
May 16, 2016 at 1:07 PM

Karen – Thank you for your comment, and I couldn’t agree more!

Jordan Davenport
May 16, 2016 at 12:26 PM

I am guilty of being somewhat of a perfectionist and always wanting to get things right the first time around. But like you mentioned, when I don’t get it right the first time, it keeps me growing, improving and enjoying the journey. I enjoyed this post. Thanks for sharing!

August 13, 2016 at 8:04 AM

You really dug up a gem of a topic to write on. The only problem is that it was too short. I would love to read more of what you have to say on this. That aside I think whenever you try something you either earn or you learn!! The fun is in the journey and the success is just the cherry on the cake!!


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