Why did you miss that lift? Why didn’t you make it to Regionals? Why did someone say something hurtful and rude to you? Why didn’t that go how you wanted it to? Why were you late? Why didn’t you win?
You have to be extremely cautious of experiencing problems and blaming someone else, or everyone else for them.
You also have to be cautious of blaming yourself for everything that has happened.
It doesn’t have to be either “all of your fault” or “none of your fault”. You are the common denominator in everything in your life. That doesn’t mean you are to blame, it simply means that you are part of the situation. Try rationalizing and understand that it wasn’t likely all you, or all them.
- If something bad happens to you in the gym, or outside of it, you may want to write it down, share your thoughts with someone, be a little angry, or cry. Once you do those things…LET GO OF THE BLAME. The situation happened, it’s over, and you don’t need to suffer any longer. Take ownership for what you can control so that you can improve in the future, and let go of what you can’t.
Blame is an incredible waste of time. It takes the focus off of your purpose and goals, and it requires way too much energy. Instead, you could use that energy to get stronger, become a better coach, or a million other more productive things.
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